How to Process Anger and Rage

This week we wish to share a short (7:47) and interesting clip of a conversation between Tim Ferriss and Dr. Gabor Maté. Many of our counsellors find Dr. Maté’s work very insightful.

Here Dr. Maté talks on how to process anger and rage.

Rage is described by Dr. Maté as “the anger that arises when our boundaries are transgressed”. He recognises that anger has a place, and can be seen as healthy when it protects boundaries and resolves when the threat has passed.

If our boundaries are infringed upon as a child but we are unable to express rage, often because it is not safe to show those emotions, the brain surpresses the rage where it bubbles away and grows below the surface like a volcano.

As an adult, a situation may trigger this dormant rage and the volcano explodes. In this way, we are not responding to the present moment, but rather the past hurt that the original rage stemmed from.

Dr. Maté encourages the processing of this rage by fully experiencing it in our bodies in a safe environment, completing the expression of the emotion that we weren’t able to do at the time.

This can be achieved using the RAIN method developed by Tara Brach.

  • Recognise what is happening
  • Allow the experience to be there, just as it is
  • Investigate with interest and care
  • Nurture with self-compassion

More information on this approach can be found here: https://www.tarabrach.com/rain/?cn-reloaded=1

Thank you for joining us for this week’s insightful article.

Wishing you a wonderful week,

TCS Team

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